This post was written two weeks ago. A lot has happened since then, but it is still part of our journey, so I think it’s important to still post it….
September 12, 2017 It’s time for some honesty. I have said before that I want to always inspire others to consider taking in a kiddo who needs a family – especially those teens!
My first teen has been a dream. Connecting has been easy, fun has been easy, and parenting has been easy.
My second teen is a total sweetheart. She asked if she could call me mom after only a few days. She has said thank you a hundred times, she loves hugs, and even complies when consequences have to be handed out.
But for some reason, this time around is emotional for me. Some of it is that my husband is in a season of travel, so I’m alone. Another aspect is that every moment of our day is crammed full. I have three kids in soccer with practices and games overlapping. I have one who is also in a coding club before school and music after school. I have another who is in dance after school, has some failing grades, is trying to find a job. We have appointments and court dates during the day, and I’m at the kids school helping in class, teaching music, and having lunch.
It’s a full life. It’s a good life. But I’m learning that I can only handle so much. And now that I’m trying to figure out how to make sure everyone gets the socializing they want, and keep healthy food in them, and transport them places, it’s just too much.
Today I asked for help. I have often heard about depression settling in when a new kiddo enters the family, much the same as postpartum can settle on a mom with a new baby. I sat in a doctor’s office and cried my makeup off. But she talked through everything with me. Gave me some information and some temporary medication. It’s okay that I need some help. It’s ok because what I’m feeling without help is not okay. I can’t eat, I’m nauseated, I even yelled at my boys and broke down in tears in front of one of them, effectively freaking him out!
But in that moment, I was able to call a friend who prayed powerfully over us. I was able to talk to my husband for the first time in a few days. We got to connect. Each friend who has spoken truth into my life has left something in my fuel tank that fills it up just a little.
Galatians 6:9: “So don’t get tired of doing good. Don’t get discouraged and give up, for we will reap a harvest of blessing at the appropriate time.” -Kate
“Picture that oxygen mask on the airplane. You need to put yours on first…yoga and exercise, or a big cup of coffee.” -Karen
“It is so clear that God has called you to this life. You are amazing with teens!” -Stefanie
“You inspire me over and over when I watch you parent all four of your kids.” -Tiffany
“I love you so much. When I saw what you were feeling in your heart, I knew I wanted to be on this journey with you.” – Kylee
Just walking and talking with Kamie was a full hour filled with encouragement.
“I want to walk this journey with you.” -Angela
“You’ve got this! Nothing is impossible through Christ and you are posturing yourself as a servant to the orphan – it’s true religion! I love how invested you are. You aren’t doing this alone. Self-capability is like self-righteousness. It doesn’t exist. We are meant to lean on and draw from our great God every minute. ” -Gina
The enemy comes to kill, steal, and destroy, but I won’t let him do that to me or my family!
So, if God is calling you to this, it might be easy! We had that experience. And it might be hard! We get to have that experience too. But doing nothing has no purpose!
I’m thankful that I get to be mom to four amazing kids! And that is my honesty post for the day.